The forgotten six thousand (guest blog)

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One of the benefits of writing this blog is that it’s given me the chance to meet other medics who have decided to do different things with their lives. I’m so pleased to introduce this guest blog by theconfusedmedic, a fourth year medical student who has currently interrupted  her studies to pursue other things outside medicine. She currently working as a junior medical writer for a medical communications company and would like to explore medical writing as a career option. She plans to return to medical school in the next year or so to complete her MBBS but beyond that, she’d like to do something outside of practising clinical medicine.

A medical student’s view on the junior doctor contract dispute

Last year, a post on Reddit went viral and this heartbreakingly candid photo of a doctor grieving over one of his patients was shown to the world.

Evidently, the reality of being a doctor is tough. It’s draining, both emotionally and physically. They sacrifice so much of their time and self to help others. The reward can be great; doctors make a huge difference in people’s lives. However, if it goes wrong, they have to pick themselves up and do it all again for the next patient that comes through their door.

The junior doctor contract debate that has come to light over the last several months has angered and frustrated thousands of doctors around the country. The changes to the contract have been widely rejected and deemed unsafe for both doctors and patients. Yet, despite the strikes and protests, news broke recently that the contract was going to be imposed anyway.

The whole medical profession is up in arms yet again, and rightly so. The definition of the word ‘contract’ is: “A written or spoken agreement, especially one concerning employment, sales, or tenancy, that is intended to be enforceable by law.” The key word here is agreement. At no point has anyone agreed and accepted this contract. So why has the government suddenly decided they are going to force it on thousands of employees?

Besides the 50-odd thousand junior doctors in England, there is a significant cohort of people who were never really considered or consulted on the matter of a contract that would dictate their future – they are the 6,000 medical students in England whose voices were overlooked by the government. Six thousand people who will leave medical school and have a job contract enforced upon them that they didn’t agree to.

Amongst my friends and fellow medical students, the general consensus is one of outrage, disappointment, and uncertainty. Outrage at the audacity of the government to go ahead and impose a contract widely condemned as unsafe and unfair; disappointment at the lack of meaningful responses from the government; and uncertainty over what this means for the future of training.

I asked some of my friends for their personal views on the matter and what it would mean for them. Will they complete their foundation training in the UK then leave? Will they apply to do foundation in Wales/Scotland? Would they leave medicine altogether after graduation/somewhere down the line? Or will they stay in the NHS and fight this thing until the bitter end?

The responses were mixed. Some are considering and preparing for alternatives: Wales and Scotland; taking an F3 abroad and playing it by ear; taking the USLMEs. Some are looking for ways out of medicine altogether (I only have to look down my Facebook feed to see events pop up for ‘Alternative Careers in Medicine’ and the like, to know people are considering their options). Some don’t have much choice in the matter of whether to stay or go – the financial investment and ties to family and friends are too strong to consider leaving. And why should they have to?

One common thread amongst medical students is a desire to fight this contract for a better future for themselves, every other medical student that will follow them, and the patients of the NHS. A friend made a good point about how governments will always change and politicians are always attempting to make big reforms; we just have to fight them and stick it out. It took a lot of brave people to keep the NHS running thus far, and it will need a lot more brave people to do the same now.

However, I know for me personally, I don’t know if I could do it. Prior to this contract saga, I had my own personal doubts over a career in medicine anyway and it is looking even more unlikely that I will practice as a doctor. I actually find it quite sad to say because at one point that was what I wanted to do. Unfortunately somewhere along the way, I lost that desire and am currently on a leave of absence to work out what I want to do next. The thing is, it doesn’t surprise me to know that I am not the only medical student who feels this way.

We are incredibly lucky to have, in my opinion, the greatest healthcare system in the world. Sadly, the current government are hell bent on destroying it. The NHS probably won’t be sustainable forever, and it has its flaws, but there are so many more positives about it that we, as medical students, doctors, and members of the public, have to fight for. Medical trainees from all over the world aspire to work in the UK health system, but with the changes this contract will bring, all those highly sought after trainees will go elsewhere. And those that are in the UK already will leave. If practising doctors are considering their alternatives, and medical school graduates like myself are looking at other options, where does that leave the NHS?

It’s easy for the government to sit back and make whatever decisions they want to extend working times, reduce overtime pay, and remove safeguards for doctors. They are not the ones who will have to deal with the fall out. They won’t be the ones who will end up being treated by doctors who are tired, overworked, and damn right miserable about the conditions they work in. That will fall on the general public and all the people who rely on the NHS for their health care.

And it’s just not fair.

 

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Letter to my MP

Following the advice of the BMA, I wrote to my MP today. The words flowed easily. My god, I feel guilty for leaving and pursuing another career while my colleagues are left in this pile of shit, but I’ll be damned before I stop fighting for them – for us – for everyone.

Dear Ms Creasy,

I am writing to you regarding the junior doctor contract.

I am a ex-doctor. I worked for the NHS for two and a half years before leaving in December 2015. During my time as a doctor, I experienced the extreme pressures that medical staff find themselves under.

I did part of my training in Paediatrics, and I found it especially difficult not to be able to deliver the highest level of care to sick babies and children because we were constantly faced with staff shortages, a lack of resources and management decisions that were not based on good clinical practice, but were simply target-driven, cost-cutting exercises.

My health deteriorated physically and mentally while I worked as a junior doctor. Nowadays, doctors do not have access to the same facilities as they did in days gone by. No accommodation or parking is usually provided for junior doctors, so I often found myself walking home or to wherever my car was in the middle of the night after shifts. As a woman, this can be an incredibly intimidating thing to do – especially since junior doctors have to move around the country so much, so I was sometimes not familiar with the area I was working in.

Food and drink is not provided for medical staff any more, and I often found myself going through shifts without a moment to eat or drink anything. I fainted on shift a couple of times because of it.

Even in the short time I worked as a doctor, I saw and fought against the closure of ‘Doctors’ Messes’ – staff rooms that were often the only place in the hospital to rest, eat and sleep. I worked in several hospitals where I was doing night shifts without any sleeping provisions. If I ever did get a couple of hours to rest, I was expected to either sleep on the floor of an office or try to fashion a bed out of wheely chairs.

When I tell people my stories, they are shocked. I am not the sort of person who demands luxury at every turn, but the denial of basic human needs in the workplace seems absolutely absurd, given that these are the people who need to be able to make snap decisions literally about life or death.

I have been shocked and appalled by the way this issue has been handled by the government. The lies, deceit, spin and slander have completely destroyed any confidence the profession had in the Health Secretary, and the idea of imposition of a contract against the will of 98% of junior doctors, and without soliciting atheir input, is surely akin to exploitation.

I implore you to demand the answers from them that they have denied us. Jeremy Hunt has consistently claimed that doctors will not be working more hours, but how on earth can he simultaneously propose to increase the service to seven days a week without increasing staff numbers or budget? It just does not add up.

I can honestly tell you I am relieved not to be working as a doctor anymore, and my health has finally returned. Although my former colleagues truly love their jobs, I fear this contract will push more and more of them over the edge and soon there will be more like me.

We need people like you to speak on our behalf and put sustained pressure on the Health Secretary and Prime Minister. If this contract is successfully imposed, I believe the future of the NHS will be in jeopardy.

Yours faithfully,

Dr Priyanjalee Perera

Junior Doctor Cartoon #2

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Yes, I appreciate this cartoon is controversial.

However, let me explain where this comes from. A few weeks ago, I went to a friend’s engagement party, during which I met some people who said that it didn’t matter if all the UK trained junior doctors resign because the NHS will be staffed by a stream of foreign doctors who will be eager to come here and willing to put up with poor working conditions.

When I posted this conversation on the Junior Doctor Contract Forum on Facebook, many people commented on it and agreed with me that this concept was absolutely ridiculous and bordering on exploitation!

It was reported in the Independent today that 90% of junior doctors would resign if the current contract proposal goes through. With the NHS currently dependent on foreign-trained doctors, I can see how this assumption that rota gaps will be plugged by migrants came about. But I have a BIG problem with it. As the daughter of a Sri Lankan immigrant family, I reject the idea of bringing doctors over to work in an unsafe, unfair health system. It’s wrong, it’s backward, and if anyone ever says its to me again, I’ll tell them where to go.

The wonderful Rikki Marr from Hawk and Mouse has once again beautifully illustrated my frustrations in cartoon form. I just want to thank Dr Morton’s for going ahead with this campaign. It’s thanks to them that these cartoons exist. They may be a private company, but their whole focus is to support the NHS through health innovation. They receive no NHS funding and are not NHS affiliated, yet the CEO John Wilkes came in this morning wearing a green BMA badge.

There aren’t many CEOs of private healthcare companies who would do that.

 

 

My Junior Doctor Cartoon Campaign

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The wonderful thing about my new job is that, even though I’ve left the NHS, I can still support my junior doctor colleagues in some small way.

Tomorrow, my former colleagues are going on strike for the second time over the proposed junior doctor contract. Ever since I resigned, I’ve felt painfully removed from their struggle. My voice, that once shouted loudly amongst them, now feels diminished and lacking in authority.

Added to this was the fact that I couldn’t make the protest on Saturday – but it was my best friend’s wedding, so I think I can be forgiven for that!

However, last week, my chance to make a difference came… Our PR Manager at Dr Morton’s asked me for some ideas about how we can get the company involved in the strike. His fantastic idea was a cartoon campaign called ‘A World Without Junior Doctors’. He sent me home to mull it over.

The image above is the first in the series of illustrations that I dreamed up for this campaign, beautifully translated from my head to paper by cartoonist Rikki Marr from Hawk and Mouse. I’ve written a little blogpost on the Dr Morton’s website as well to explain why we’re doing this.

I know that these cartoons will be a marketing stunt for Dr Morton’s, but for me, it’s also deeply personal. I met a Big Issue seller on Friday who saw the green BMA badge that’s still pinned to my coat and cried:

“Ah you’re a junior doctor! Keep doing what you’re doing, I support you. Where do you work?”

When I explained my situation, he said:

“Oh. So you’re not a junior doctor any more then?”

No, I suppose I’m not. I know he was just being friendly, but it hurt.

I thought about it as I was thinking and planning for this campaign, and felt rather nostalgic and sad. Yet here I am, still at the office at 6.30 pm, having spent all day perfecting these images and pushing for publication, and I realise this: I may not be working as a doctor, but the last eight years have irrevocably tied me to Medicine. It will influence everything I do and the way I think for the rest of my life, and that – I believe – is something to be proud of.

 

 

 

The Perks of Being a Doctor

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When you grow up in a medical family, you notice how useful it is to know a doctor. Our friends come to my father constantly with their problems; whether it’s for advice, reading a scan or even organising a scan, knowing a brilliant Radiologist like my dad is an exceptional advantage.

My uncle is my dentist. I still feel a bit guilty when we go to his house for dinner and eat dessert in front of him.

Down the road are a married couple. She’s our family’s GP and he’s a paediatrician (and formerly my boss) at the hospital, but they’re old family friends as well. If ever I need advice, both their mobile numbers are on my phone. I don’t feel guilty about his because it means I won’t take up valuable patient slots at the practice. I guess it helps that I’m a doctor myself and tend to know what’s wrong with me already, but it’s just so practical to not have to make an appointment when I know that all I need is a quick chat. That appointment can be left for someone who really needs it.

I remember when I accidentally dropped my brother down the stairs when he was a baby (yes, it was an accident, although my brother now teases me mercilessly about how I did it on purpose, and declares that any mental deficit he suffers from is my fault). After my dad arranged head scan for him, and a paediatrician friend checked him over, they confirmed he was absolutely fine, so I now tell my brother that all his failings are his alone!

It’s not just family and friends. The cleaning lady, the postman, the handy man and even the gardener have all asked for assistance and advice, and my dad has always been very giving of his time to those in need. Cynics call it nepotism, and the GMC has very strict rules about how far you can go as a doctor to treat those you know personally, but I really think society has become so obsessed with this concept of impartiality that they’ve forgotten that it’s human nature to use what you know to help those around you.

Which brings me to what happened last night: over the last week or so, my fiancé has been complaining of a ‘spot’ on the back of his hand. It did just look like a regular spot, but it was hurting him a lot. As the days went by, the area became redder, more swollen and more painful. I treated it with all the over-the-counter things I could think of, but nothing seemed to be working. Last night, when he came home from work, it looked worse than it ever had before, and I was certain it was cellulitis. There was possibly also an abscess, and he needed antibiotics. My fiancé, however, has only just started a new job, and was irritated at the thought of having to take time off work so early. Making an appointment at his GP practice was always difficult, and he had no desire to wait around in a hospital for treatment.

I was at my wits end trying to figure out what to do. My home town was too far away to ask my GP or family for help. If I was still practising, I could so easily solve this problem! Even though you’re not allowed to prescribe for family members, it would have been simple enough to take him along to the hospital and get one of my colleagues to see him. Hell, I could have even lanced the damn abscess myself! As it was, I couldn’t even put a dressing on for him. When I was a doctor, I had access to all this stuff.

I really felt that I was failing him. And yet, I chose this. It’s not my job any more.

Luckily we had a hand from Dr Karen Morton, founder of online GP service Dr Morton’s. She  told my fiancé it was serious and needed immediate treatment. I’m so thankful she called, because I would never have been able to convince him to go to A&E otherwise!

11.30pm. Along we went to Whipps Cross. Funnily enough, we were in and out within an hour. I guess that, with the strike going on, people were staying away from A&E. We were seen by a lovely nurse who made us both laugh. She dressed and cleaned the hand, and gave us the antibiotics and painkillers he needed.

While we were in the waiting room, my fiancé asked me why I was upset. I told him how I felt; that I missed being a clinician. I was so frustrated that I knew exactly what to do and yet couldn’t make it happen. I felt like crying. Medicine was such a huge part of my identity, I didn’t know how to be without it – I didn’t feel like anything without it. I know this sounds melodramatic, but I was tired and frazzled, and seeing my fellow doctors strike earlier had stirred up a lot of emotions.

“Medicine’s not who you are, it’s just something you did for a bit,” my fiancé told me kindly, “You’re more than just a doctor, you know.”

I told him about a doctor I’d met that morning on the picket line of Guys and St Thomas’ hospital. I interviewed him for this blog and he told me about how he used to have anxiety attacks every time he came near the hospital. He pushed through it, however, and is now a paediatric trainee.

I remember that feeling. I remember feeling sick with fear before every shift. I remember having to coax myself out of bed in the morning, just to get up the courage to go to work. I remember the amount of wine I needed to get myself through a run of nightshifts. It wasn’t a healthy place to be, but I felt I had given up too early. Should I have just carried on, hoping one day it would finally be ok? Should I have, as some friends suggested, restarted my antidepressants, just so I could get through my training?

“What are you talking about?” said my fiancé, “You did something you hated for 8 years and now you think you didn’t give it enough of a chance? I never got to see you when you were a doctor. You were constantly tired, and always ill. We never knew where you were going to be from one year to the next, and we couldn’t plan anything in advance because you never knew your rota. You were grumpy and miserable, and you just weren’t you. It’s different, now you’ve stopped; I actually get to spend time with you.”

It was the first time my fiancé had ever told me honestly what it was really like for him when I was working. It dawned on me that maybe my inability to treat his cellulitis didn’t fail him as much as my former lifestyle had.

We walked out of Whipps Cross together, after a free appointment, with two boxes of free medication in our hands. The NHS really is amazing. I definitely took what I did as a doctor for granted – it was my job, after all – but it was incredible, and that’s why it’s so hard to walk away. But looking at the striking doctors from a distance, I can see things in a way that I couldn’t before: even after everything the NHS puts them through, doctors still continue to fight for it, and when you put it like that, their struggle is more poignant than ever.

 

Click here for an exclusive interview with a junior doctor on the picket line.

So… what do you do?

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December is the prime time for this question, or versions thereof. With everyone getting together for Christmas and New Year, I knew I would be catching up with friends and relatives and meeting new people, so small talk would be abundant for a good two or three weeks. I have to admit, I was dreading it. I was afraid of their judgement and remarks. I suppose I was also afraid of how I would react to their reactions. I could hardly justify my situation to myself, so how could I justify it to others?

I have always taken it for granted that I could give people a satisfactory progress report. “I’m in year 13” turned into “I’m in year X at medical school,” which turned into “I’m working at such-and-such hospital.” The only variation to contend with was the inevitable follow up question: “Have you chosen your speciality yet?”

Traditionally, the responses I have given to these queries have depended largely on how I feel about the person asking them. With kindred spirits – the people I feel will really listen and might understand my point of view – I am honest, but mostly I’ve just been busy hiding my true feelings about it all these years, even from the people closest to me.

As Christmas loomed, everything seemed so complicated. What was I supposed to say when people asked me what I was doing now?

“I had a quarter-life crisis and quit my job with no plan B, so I’m now officially unemployed and relying on my savings and my fiancé to get by. I have no current certainty or prospects, and not much of an idea about what to do, except a vague plan to write a novel that I’m unjustifiably optimistic about.”

It sounded terrible. I almost wanted to avoid the festive parties altogether to save myself from this humiliating admission. I also felt bad for my parents – when people asked them how I was getting on, they would be having exactly the same problem.

Then, two things happened to me.

The first was deciding to locum after my little visit to the job centre. That gave me something solidly medical to say, and was a relief. “I’m locuming at the moment” is a brilliant answer for those you don’t really want to talk to, and who are just asking you for the sake of saying something. It’s satisfying for both parties and the perfect precursor for a swift exit line.

The other was this: at the start of December, in between dancing for joy and plunging into the depths of despair, I started job hunting on the Guardian website. I found an ad I was interested in for a managerial role in a charity, but being inexperienced with this sort of thing, I was doubtful. I worried that I didn’t meet the criteria in many of the job specifications, because a lot of them stated the necessity for formal qualifications or specific experience. But, as my fiancé told me, job specs are not hard and fast rules. They represent the ‘ideal’, and most companies would rather hire the closest match than wait for the perfect candidate. My career coach has also been helping me to realise the value of the skills and experiences I already have.

So I shot off my CV, not really believing anything would come of it. Then two weeks later, I got a call. The charity had said my application was certainly unusual, but they had loved it. They offered me a telephone interview, and after that, they offered me a formal interview. I’m going in for it next week. Whether or not I get the job in the end, it’s been such a boost for me just getting to interview.

It’s also nice to sing my own praises. It’s not something I got to do much in medicine – it was more about people assessing me. ARCPs are tick-boxing exercises and applying for clinical jobs requires more form-filling and exam-taking than knowledge of your true strengths, skills and weaknesses. It’s just the nature of the medical profession that everybody is presumed to have all the necessary skills for their level. As a result, the thought of doing a non-medical interview is scary. No longer can I rest on my laurels; I actually have to prove myself. It’s made me sit down and think about what I’m really good at, what suits me and what I really want – perhaps for the first time in my entire life.

As the Yuletide approached, I started to see my situation is a different light. Yes, there are things in my current situation that I don’t like, but there is also plenty of potential. This is a really exciting time for me, and I really need to give myself a break. It sounds cliché to ‘have faith in yourself’ and to ‘stay positive’ but these little things can be incredibly difficult to do. I still struggle sometimes, but I’m working my way towards another cliché where I see my glass as half full.

So now, when people ask ‘what are you doing now?’ I have an answer I’m proud of:

“Well, I’m planning to locum while transitioning into a new career. I’ve got an interview with a charity soon for a management role. In the meantime, I’m volunteering for Medic Footprints to help other doctors in their careers – a role that I got because the directors were impressed by an article about their conference on my personal blog. I’m also researching the British colonization of Asia to give historical accuracy to the novel I am currently writing.”

There. Sounds much better doesn’t it? And the best things are: it’s all true, and I can say it to everyone.

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My Last Day…s

On Tuesday 1st December 2015, we all thought it was the last day. Every four months, foundation doctors rotate round into their next specialty, meaning a new team, new patients, new rules and sometimes even a new hospital or town. Tuesday was to be that day, but then the unprecedented industrial action was called over the junior doctor contract row. The first strike was planned to take place on our rotation day, and with the government being so continuously unreasonable, the strike seemed imminent. We all said our goodbyes on Monday – to our favourite patients, the nurses, the ward clerks and our senior doctors, knowing how our day to day closeness would fade into brief smiles in the corridors and occasional chats in the coffee shop queue.

For me, there was another goodbye to make: to medicine. It was a very busy day and we were short-staffed, but for once I was grateful for this. It was a distraction from the enormity of what I was about to do: walk out on my profession and my security, into the unknown. My colleagues reassured me with reminders that I can always come back if I change my mind in the future. I know they’re right and I appreciate them trying to make me feel better, but right at this moment, I do not think I will ever come back. Unless financially I am forced to locum to support myself, I think this is it for me.

With this in mind, I found myself becoming very emotional as the day went by. “Is this last time I will write a drug chart? Is this the last time I will order an x-ray?” I even felt sad doing a discharge summary! Grappling with hopeless IT systems and pointless tick boxes has been the bane of my life for the last 3 years, and yet I seem to have become strangely attached to it.

The hardest reality to face was that of blood taking… I remember how nervous I used to feel when I first started doing bloods and cannulas on real people back in medical school. I remember the venepuncture failures when I first started working, and sidling up to my seniors, looking sheepish, to ask for help after two unsuccessful attempts. Then I did a Geriatric job – thin, faded arms with sagging skin and veins as thin as paper, which collapsed into bruises at the touch of a needle. My Paediatric job was the most challenging of all – tiny, premature, newborn hands with miniature vessels made visible only by a transilluminator, and the harsh, yet irrepressible guilt as their innocent screams ring through your ears at 3 in the morning while you stab at the skin they have owned for barely ten minutes.

Thanks to these experiences, I am now rather good at taking blood, and over the last four months, patients have told me often that my technique is painless. It is a skill that I can’t really take elsewhere with me, and it does feel like a waste. I cried after cannulating a patient yesterday.

As I walked around the hospital doing various jobs, I got a sense of how privileged I have been to have occupied this world for a time. I scoop up a set of back-breakingly heavy patient notes, and the unattached bits of paper inside all slide out unpityingly onto the floor. As I sigh and pick them up, I realise I am looking at someone’s cancer records. If I wanted to, I could log into the system and look at their bloods, or pull up their scans and see the tumour myself. I could read their clinic letter and find out what their prognosis was. I am privy to some of the darkest moments of people’s lives every day. How odd to lose that suddenly.

I wander over to theatres to find a consultant, and peer into the operating room to see if he’s nearly finished. There’s an anaesthetised patient on the table, half naked with a long bloody slash down one leg. Hip replacement. Isn’t it weird that I get to see this? It’s so normalised for me now that I don’t even think about it, but other people – non-medical people – would find it overwhelming. Inspiring. Fascinating. Gross.

As the day came to an end, I said my goodbyes, took a deep breath and went home. I didn’t have time to be emotional, as my mind was pre-occupied by the plans I had that evening with some colleagues: we were planning to go into central London in our scrubs and stethoscopes to talk to the public about the junior contract row – a ‘meet the doctors’ initiative. I thought it fitting that the last thing I would do as a junior doctor would be standing up for the profession.

Just as my train pulled into Liverpool Street, however, the news came through that the strike had been called off! And agreement had been reached at the eleventh hour! I messaged my colleagues and there was a lot of confusion over why this had happened and what it meant for us, so our meet the doctors plan sort of disintegrated. I had to laugh because I’d just spent the whole day mourning the loss of my daily grind, and here I was going in the very next day to do it all again!

It did feel very strange that this political storm was going on during my notice period. I’ve been vigorously defending my fellow junior doctors whilst knowing that I’m going to be jumping ship very soon. It does feel like I’m abandoning them, but then perhaps they can use me to their advantage and tell the newspapers that Jeremy Hunt’s schemes forced me to quit!

My actual last day was again very busy, as several patients were unwell. Two patients had post-op bleeding and needed blood transfusions. One developed an awful looking wound infection and another was found to have cellulitis. One was paralysed from the waist down, but had the attitude of an angel and the patience of a saint, while another walked cheerfully around the ward for most of the day, but then would crawl back into bed whenever the doctors came in, complaining of ‘unbearable’ pain and not being able to move at all. I had referrals to make, letters to other hospitals to send, rehab units to call, discharge summaries to do, drug charts to re-write, bloods, x-rays, cannulas, and of course, a tour of the hospital and a patient hand-over to do for the person taking over my job. At about 4pm, I sat down to have lunch. Then one of my patients developed signs and symptoms of a heart attack! Nightmare day! I sorted everything out for him and was just about to leave when the emergency buzzer went off in one of the side rooms. I smiled at my colleague as we ran over – it seemed as if Fate did not want me to leave! Luckily it was just a false alarm.

I finally left the hospital at about 6.30 pm. I expected to feel upset, relieved, overcome by the significance of the moment, but I did not. This long, drawn out goodbye has only left me feeling incredibly anxious, and when I got home, I cried for nearly an hour. My worries about locuming, the future and financial stability got the better of me, and I suddenly felt very scared and alone.

What am I going to do now? How am I going to employ my time? How do I make a living? I try to believe I can do anything I want to, but it’s hard to do that at the moment. My nails are bitten to pieces with the stress of it all, and I can’t shut my worrying brain off. Deep down, I know that resigning was the right thing to do, but right now, it feels awful. This is the culmination of my ‘break-up’ analogy. Divorce papers signed, possessions split, paths diverged – bring on the wine and the ice-cream, because I just need to feel my way through this.

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